غضب ← حلم
From Anger to Forbearance
Anger → Forbearance
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Qur'an
الَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ
“Those who spend in ease and hardship, who restrain their anger and pardon people—and Allah loves the doers of good.”
Sūrat Āl ʿImrān (3:134)
Personal Reflection
Anger is one of the strongest emotions we experience. It can arise from pain. From injustice. From disappointment. Even from love for what is right. The Qur'an does not teach us to deny our anger. It teaches us to master it. True strength is not found in reacting quickly, but in choosing a response that pleases Allah. When anger is restrained, the heart creates space for mercy. When forgiveness follows, that mercy reaches others. Every moment of self-restraint is an opportunity to become among those whom Allah loves: "Allah loves the doers of good."
This is the author's own contemplation. It is not tafsīr.
Insight from Tafsīr al-Mīzān
Allamah Tabataba'i explains that this verse describes the qualities of those who live with taqwā. Their excellence is not measured only by acts of worship, but by the way they respond to life's trials and to other people.
Restraining anger does not mean denying that it exists. Rather, it is refusing to let anger govern one's actions. The verse then calls the believer to an even higher station: not only controlling anger, but pardoning others. It concludes with the highest degree of character, iḥsān, for "Allah loves the doers of good."
This progression teaches that true spiritual growth moves from self-restraint to forgiveness, and from forgiveness to excellence in character. Such qualities are signs of a heart shaped by taqwā and nurtured through obedience to Allah.
Tafsīr al-Mīzān, commentary on Sūrat Āl ʿImrān (3:133–136), particularly verse 3:134
almizan.orgGuidance from the Ahlulbayt
“No servant suppresses his anger except that Allah increases him in honour in this world and the Hereafter.”
— Imam Jaʿfar al-Ṣādiq (peace be upon him)
Al-Kāfī, Volume 2, Book of Faith and Disbelief, Chapter Anger (al-Ghaḍab) · https://thaqalayn.net/hadith/2/1/114/3
Du'a
رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي وَلِأَخِي وَأَدْخِلْنَا فِي رَحْمَتِكَ وَأَنتَ أَرْحَمُ الرَّاحِمِينَ
“My Lord, forgive me and my brother, and admit us into Your mercy, for You are the Most Merciful of the merciful.”
Sūrat al-Aʿrāf (7:151)
One step forward
The next time you feel anger rising, pause before responding.
Take one slow breath, remember Allah, and ask yourself:
"Will my next words bring me closer to forgiveness or further from it?"
Journal Reflection
What situation in my life most tests my ability to respond with forbearance, and how can I invite Allah into that moment?
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